Stage 5 clinger

If you've ever seen the movie Wedding Crashers (if you haven't, you need to) then you know the saying "stage 5 clinger." Usually, males use this term to explain that a girl is "clingy" and becomes obsessed with them quickly. This includes constant calling, saying "I love you" too fast, always wanting to spend time with you, constant touching, etc.

Although, recently, I've been noticing a lot of my girlfriends saying their boyfriend or guy their dating is being too clingy. In my opinion, most girls want to date someone who is laid back, and I'm sure it's the same for guys. But when a guy becomes clingy too fast- it's probably the most unattractive quality they can have (from a girls perspective).

For example, my friend recently started dating this guy who she thought was "Mr. Perfect" until he began calling her all the time, holding her hand in public after only a few dates, and always wanting to hang out with her... even if she already has plans. YUCK!!

Here's my advice to both girls and guys: The more laid back you are in relationships, the better the chance you have of the relationship working out. If it doesn't work out- well it wasn't meant to be anyways... so chill out!

Just some basic relationship advice

I found this website today and I thought it was a great website for both males and females who are looking for relationship advice: Practical Happiness.

While I was searching through this site, I came across this video where a male is giving advice to other males about how to pick up girls in a bar. This related to my previous posts about meeting someone in a bar and I thought it was interesting to get a guy's perspective on how they pick girls up at a bar...

Timing is everythying part II

I'd like to share my own personal experience of having to deal with the issue of "timing" in one of my relationships. This issue is an important one to me because a lot of times, relationships end only because 2 people met at the wrong time in their life.

I met my previous boyfriend while I was studying abroad in Australia. When it was time to say good-bye, we decided to keep our relationship going. However, he is from Canada and he is 24. He got a full-time job in February and is ready to settle down with someone. I'm nearly 22 and about to graduate from college. I am nowhere ready to settle down and start my life with someone.

I met the man of my dreams. He treats me the way I've always felt I've deserved and he's willing to move to America for me and ONLY me. However, I'm not ready for that kind of commitment, therefore I had to end the relationship because we wanted different things. Will we work out in a few years down the road? Who knows, but the what-if game is pointless anyway.

I remember my dad always saying there comes a certain point in life where you want to settle down, and you will know when that time comes. The problem with that is, what if that time comes and the girl/guy for you is gone? I guess the counter to that would be if the person really was right for you... timing wouldn't matter.

Timing is everything

If you want to be in happy relationship, there's a lot you can do to control that outcome. Unfortunately, you cannot control everything. For example, you can't control your partner- what they want or how they feel. We've all heard the phrase "timing is everything," but what does this mean exactly?

This refers to circumstances in your relationship, what the two people within the relationship want at this specific time. For example, my roommate is moving to New York at the end of May, but her boyfriend of 2 years is moving to D.C. Though they want to be together, the timing is not right for their relationship because they both want different things right now.

After dating many different boys for the past 7 years, it is my firm belief, based on observation, that all things being equal, timing is the most important ingredient to determining your relationships potential. When you're walking on campus and you see couples around you, if you ever wonder why those 2 people are together, the most important reason is they met and started dating when the timing was right for both of them.

How to feel confident in relationships

Life’s a team game. Your happiness depends on the quality of your relationships with your romantic partners, friends and family members, doesn’t it? Happiness is priceless. Life’s too short to waste time lacking confidence, especially as there are secrets you can discover to help you turn your difficult relationships into fulfilling, confident and fun ones. Here are a few ideas...

-Trust again after a previous break up.
-Clear unhappy and previous relationships out of your mind. Enjoy the present.
-Choose the right time (and way) to end a relationship. Avoid being impulsive.
-Partake in more supportive, fun and loving relationships. Stay away from the abusive ones.
-Get what you need without having to nag, sulk, cry or get angry. :-D
-Understand the opposite sex for they are extremely different. Enjoy the differences instead of arguing about them.

the chase is always better than the catch

I've said it before, I'll said it again. The chase is always better than the catch.

Whether they're willing to admit it or not- girls love the chase. They love guys chasing after them and they love chasing after the guys, too. "That's the best part of liking someone," a 21-year-old Towson female says. "It's fun whenever a guy plays hard to get and it's fun playing hard to get towards a guy. Once the chase is over and you actually catch them, well, it gets kind of boring."

Sad, but true. I'd have to agree with her. Once you get what you want, you don't really want it anymore.

Guys are the same way. Guys love chasing girls, multiple girls at one time. They love to think that a girl is just out of their reach and if they push a bit harder, they can catch her. However, once a girl becomes too interested in them, they lose interest.

My advice to both girls and guys: if you want to keep someone interested, don't act interested.

Breaking up is hard to do

With the semester coming to an end and many students preparing to graduate and go down their own road, a lot of changes begin to uproar. Relationships usually end, it's tough to make things work if you want two separate things.


For example, my roommate and her boyfriend met here at Towson University and have been dating for 2 years. With both of them being seniors, Emily plans to move to New York City for an internship and Sean plans to move to D.C. for a job. They want to stay together- but they feel their new lives will slowly drift them apart.

Relationships are hard work, especially when both people in that relationship are trying to establish their life. The only advice I can give to my roommate and her boyfriend- or anyone in this situation is do what makes you happy until it doesn't make you happy anymore. If it doesn't work out, odds are things will turn out the way it's supposed to.